To Save Your Marriage, Stop Talking!

by Mikea Houstan

It may seem counter-intuitive to say that in order to save your marriage you need to stop talking to your partner, but this could in fact be the very thing that allows some couples to move beyond their problems and return to happiness together.

Most couples who are having difficulties turn to a therapist or counselor of some sort, seeking intervention to steer them through to happier times. While this does work for some people, others find themselves filling out divorce papers before they even finish their pre-paid sessions.

Are you wondering how you can end up one of the former, rather than the latter?

If you think it's the skill of the therapist that makes the difference, you are wrong. It's the listening skills of the couple that make the difference here. Truthfully, it is not the talking that fixes the problems! Couples that use talk therapy successfully are the ones that truly listen to one another and then take action every single day afterward to make things better.

Talk that does not lead to action is not enough. Sessions that include two closed-off, bitter people sitting with arms crossed tight waiting for their chance to rip the other person apart or cry about how they have been hurt and betrayed will lead nowhere good. It can't do any good because everyone is talking but no one is listening.

Another way to totally screw things up is to leave the talk session in a rage, screaming and yelling at one another. Or, you can completely shut one another out and refuse to talk at all. In either case, you aren't like to move forward with positive action to fix the problems and all the fighting or ignoring will lead nowhere.

Yet, if you can really listen to one another in the therapists office or even just while sitting down for an honest conversation, then you have a fighting chance. You don't need months of sessions or months of at-home fighting to fix a marriage. What you need is a short period of honest discussion followed by action.

Instead of storming out of such a session with anger, you should storm out thinking of ways to make things better. Then take action! It's what you ultimately do, not say, that is going to eventually save your marriage or allow it to self-destruct and erode even further.

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