Can You Really Win Your Ex Back Easily?

by Marie Babenko

I know that you want to get back together with your ex as soon as possible. I want this for you and I remember what it's like to feel that lonliness and loss. But, these tips should help you to get your ex back more easily and quickly than if you were to follow your own instincts. This advice will help you to cut the learning curve that many have when it comes to exactly how to convince your ex to come back to you.

Whether your ex told you five minutes ago that your relationship is over or if you have been broken up with your ex for months, this advice can help you. Either way, you will be tempted to continue to do the things that will derail your every attempt to get your ex back without some guidance. It is just human nature. These tips are a mixture of what to do and what not to do to get your ex back but don't worry too much if you have already done some of the wrong things. There sincerely is nothing that can't be overcome and I do believe that it is possible for anyone to get their ex back if that is the desire of their heart.

Try not to worry too much about getting your ex back. Worry leads to fear which can make you put a lot of pressure on yourself. Try not to create scenarios inside your head of what your ex might be doing, who they might be seeing or how your future is going to play out. These thoughts will only make you do desperate things to try to get your ex back.

When you are fearful, you might want to contact your ex. You might be tempted to call them on the phone while thinking that you know the perfect thing to say to get your ex to change their mind. You might even be tempted to draw a line in the sand and demand that they talk to you and work things out. The torture of waiting can sometimes be unbearable. You might think that you either want to get them back or want it to be over for good. This is one demand that you will probably regret in the long run. Your ex will no doubt reject you and acting crazy and demanding to talk to them will make you appear very needy and weak when you should be strong.

You also might be tempted to make nice with your ex. While being polite, if you have to see your ex, is cool. Going overboard or going out of your way to be nice to someone that has rejected you is also weak and needy. Giving your ex gifts such as flowers or love letters will only make you look like you're trying to bribe your ex into coming back to you. Crying is also a very weak display of emotional blackmail that makes you look very weak and even pathetic in your ex's eyes. Just think about how you want your ex to come back to you. You want your ex to come back to you because they love you and can't live without you. Do you really think that crying and begging and buying gifts is going to get you that respect that you deserve?

You are strong and a person that is worthy of love. You deserve some respect and you should never do anything that you might regret or be ashamed of someday. Just think about that. If your ex has told you to leave then simply leave. Leave as quickly as possible without much discussion and with your head held high. If you work with your ex or you have children together you might have to see your ex on a regular basis. Don't be rude or angry with your ex but also, don't go overboard to try to chat them up or be overly nice to you. Your ex is going to be defensive and be waiting for you to try to talk them into coming back to you or work on your relationship. Abide by their wishes for the moment and be strong. Your time is coming.

Do give your ex some time to think about things. Sometimes all it takes is a day or two of being alone for your ex to realize what life will be like without you in it. If nothing else, time does have a healing effect on almost every situation. Giving your ex some time to think about the break up and perhaps even see that they acted in haste or that they made their decision based upon emotions during a heated argument. Giving your ex the time and space that they say they need also shows respect for them and the situation. You're not taking things lightly and you're respecting their decision for the moment.

Take some time and focus on yourself. You might not even realize how far you are from being ok right now. Your ego and your very being has taken a tremendous hit. While you might not want to be patient about getting your ex back, you need this time to get your life and your mind back to normal. The sooner you're back to normal, the sooner you'll be ready to get your ex back and end your breakup. Right now you're probably not acting like the person that your ex fell in love with, wouldn't you admit? This is your time to give your ex some space as well as heal yourself so you can get back to being your old loveable self again.



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