Parents Help Your Children Understand Divorce
by Nancyshanice Nikenya
Divorce can be really haunting and stressing issue that you need to free the kids from. Divorce disturbs the kids; you can visit some of the family or <a href="http://forums.nikenya.com/dating-forums/">dating forums</a> to check divorce discussions. Parents know the reasons why they are breaking up. But for the kids it may remain to be a puzzle. This is so because some parents never tell them that they have divorced.
It's the duty and responsibility of parents to make sure that their children understand what is happening or what happened. Some parents start blaming one another so that kids may favour one of them. For instance a wife may start blaming the man in front of the children forgetting the husband is also blaming her.
Both parents are wrong and should stop blaming each other. They should notice that their children need them. Imagine, when blaming your husband or wife, what if she/he appears in and blames you, do you think you are creating a bad picture in the minds of your children and confusing them more?
Parents should be very careful on how to handle their kids after a divorce. Divorce is something you enter either willingly or unwillingly, but the most important thing is to free your children. Do you think children may cause their parents to divorce?
So just assuming and casting blames on them will not help, instead it causes trauma to the kids. Divorce can cause physical and mental suffering to the kids. So if you actually love your children why leave them to suffer much and yet it is easy to get them out of that suffering!
It's not a tough task actually, it is very simple, have enough time with your children so as to tell them the truth of what occurred and why it happened. Make them not to blame anyone. It would be good if both parents talk with them together. Doing this, you both explain to them that neither one of you wanted it to occur the way it has occurred.
If the court decides or if you agree outside the court as to who should stay with the kids, then make arrangements when the other partner should visit the kids. Remember they are both your kids. Divorce didn't change the DNA of the kids.
So share the responsibility both of you, you may well think that one of you will pay no attention to the kids, but do you actually think there is a woman or man who can reject his/her children. If they exist, then there must be something wrong with that parent.
Never blame any person for your divorce, accept it as a life challenge and move on, your kids will take the situation the way you want. If it is positive that's how they can perceive it and if negative that will be it. Always remind your kids that you love them. Always do anything to make them feel comfortable, loved and cared for.
Do you know that kids can make you reunite? Make efforts of freeing them and all will be well with you.
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